This appeared in my my email box last week:
Hey donor diva,
My name is ______ and I work for The __________ Show in NY. We start filming our first season this summer and we will begin to air this september. We are a daytime talk show with a very intelligent and compassionate host whose main goal is to help all those guests he brings on. Think Oprah, NOT Maury. (more like Jerry Springer, in my opinion)
Anyway, a potential episode we may be shooting is about reuniting donor egg children with their biological mothers. My producer ________ would like to talk to you in further detail on the best ways to go about this. Are their databases? Perusing online I found your blog and you seem to be a perfect candidate even to come onto the show as a potential expert because you seem to be very passionate about the subject. Please get back to me when you can, and if you would like to expedite the process you can email my producer ________ at _______________. Thank you very much.
Initially I was very flattered to be asked to be an expert but after reading the email several times I became more and more offended. DH advised me to wait a few days to respond, this way it would soak in and I could give a not so heated response. When I did respond it was short and to the point. I was curious if anyone else had gotten emails like this. After I responded I asked Marna, founder of Parents via Egg Donation(PVED), if she had ever gotten emails like this. She told me ALL the time!
What I have learned from this experience is always ask Marna. Seriously, she has been so helpful to me as a Mother and in my blogging world. Once I found PVED I started understand egg donation more and how my choice will affect Ant. I know I want to be an advocate but I don't want to be "eggploited."